Where do you fall on your list of priorities? Taking care of ourselves certainly isn’t always easy. Mainly because it takes time, and so many of us just don’t make the time to do it. It could be that you aren’t even in the top 5 of your existing priority list. We, particularly women, have a habit of putting ourselves in last. Our children, partner, work, volunteer and social obligations all seem to come in before us. So how do we overcome the time and priority hurdle?
It starts by setting aside even just a small amount of time each day where you can be alone and quiet. Start with even just 10 minutes a day. If you have kids, that might be before they wake up or in the evening, after they’ve gone to bed. You need to find some quiet and ask yourself, “What makes me happy? What do I want for myself?” Take some time to really think about these questions. It could be that you really enjoy something as simple as a quiet, hot bath once in a while. Maybe you feel really good after you’ve had a chance to exercise and sweat. Or go out for a refreshing walk in nature. And maybe you love to be able to eat healthy adult food instead of quick service or kids’ food all the time.
In the beginning, spending some time with these thoughts can feel uncomfortable, but with practice it becomes easier. It can feel silly, or like it’s going to take time and effort that you just don’t have. However, it’s important to take this time because it’s the first step to adjusting your perspective.
The next step is to carve out one hour to do one of the things that makes you happy. Just start with a single hour. You might not know where to find that hour at first. It might require some juggling, and it might require saying no to some other tasks. Sometimes it’s important to change your way of thinking. The laundry can wait. The floors don’t need to be cleaned right now. Your kids will need to learn to spend some time on their own, or with family, friends, or a sitter once in a while. Make a commitment to that hour. It might seem like a small commitment in the beginning, but after a couple of weeks it can start to have a big impact on your well being. Continue with your daily 10 minutes too, and continue to think about your human desire for health and balance, what makes you happy, and what makes you who you are.
It takes practice, but when you start committing to those 10 minutes a day, and that one-hour a week to yourself, things start to shift. The world starts to sort itself around you in a new way. Your perception takes on a new vantage point. Remember, your giving nature is part of why people love you. Prolonged self-neglect will prevent you from caring for the people around you if you let it go on too long. When you take care of yourself, you find new energy and you can return to the rest of your life with more to give. Give it a try. Start with 10 minutes. You’re worth it.
Stephanie is a Holistic Health Coach who specializes in helping busy women honor themselves, their family, and their future by showing them how to streamline their life, eat better, create more energy, and make better decisions thus decreasing stress. Find out more at www.StephanieKatherine.com
Stephanie is a Holistic Health Coach who specializes in helping busy women honor themselves, their family, and their future by showing them how to streamline their life, eat better, create more energy, and make better decisions in order to decrease stress.